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@epsiloco Has that helped in any way? What do you do?
I also used to type things out but there is definitely power in writing them by hand.
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@phildobangnz Yeah. Responding to long posts can really eat into my time and energy even though I like having them from time to time. Especially when I have other issues going on as I have before.
Sometimes it helps me to get something posted down even if people don't respond to it. Feels like any decisions made become more concrete. I'm more likely to do something because I've mentioned doing it.
Honestly, we all have to help ourselves first. Reach out to others so they know something is wrong and you could do with their support if they are open to it. Although I will admit that guys are more open to helping the ladies in need, and perhaps less open when it comes to other guys unless they are pals or joke about things.
Sounds like you are disconnected from yourself and your emotions since you don't feel strongly from what you've said. More distant from yourself. Might be worth looking into... although it is something that I'm still working on for myself so I can't really add more there.
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@epsiloco I hope it doesn't come to that for you too.
Outlet for my problems? It has varied through the years. In the past, I have used social media like a diary to talk about certain problems. I also usually get close to somebody for a while, and have deep conversations where I've been open about things. I've tried family and getting professional help, to varying success. One thing that has actually helped lately is to write things down... this helps me to notice some patterns. I try do some research online when I have a specific problem too, or as I said... seek opinions from other people to help me bounce ideas off of. It helps me to introspect. But I haven't perfected things by any means.
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@epsiloco Prevention is the best remedy. You should be addressing them before they turn into a real problem. Normal stresses of life still need to be heard.
Also, consider this... as I grew up, I thought that my depression was a normal thing of life. I didn't know any different. But had I known and addressed things sooner, I could have avoided becoming suicidal. You do not want to be in such a low point in life before you act upon anything. It scars your psyche. My suicidal ideation has followed me since it first crept upon me. Prevention is key.
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@rice I would say it's not wrong. Especially considering all that you are doing on top. I'm really not surprised that you feel overwhelmed a lot, that it stresses you out. I couldn't imagine doing all that! x_x
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@rice But you've already been given more responsibility... and that didn't come with the raise that it should have so I'm confused by what the CEO said as well. You should be getting more for what you do.
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@phildobangnz Sometimes it can help to just listen to the problems someone else has, even with the knowledge that not much can be done due to distance or other obstacles. You have a bad habit of trying to read minds and then feeling bad over what you come up with. It's not a case of should or should not. It's not bad manners. Seriously... when did it become bad manners to talk to other people about the problems you are going through in your life? Or share your feelings about it? They just are... if anything, you are humanising yourself. Giving people an opportunity to bond closer with you, and to hear your perspective. You are being real with people... honest. If you are unhappy then let yourself be unhappy, process it as you go. We can't all be happy... especially not all the time. Don't force yourself, and then beat yourself up when you can't meet your high standards here. Let yourself be.
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@epsiloco Issues can build up though. I hope you find the company you need to talk things through.
The thing is... you need it too. I don't care if other people need it more than you do. You still need your own support network and to talk about your life and any problems you are in, especially given that it is hard for you to break the habit you mentioned. That sounds like a red flag to me. Just don't brush your own problems off... we all have them. They need the time and space to be heard.
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I don't want the Norway Model. I don't want to be tied up with the EU, still having them intrude on our laws. This is what got us in the mess we're in to begin with. We would have zero say about what goes on with the EU, and still have to follow everything it dictates. But otherwise, I can see where you are coming from... it is definitely a foreign form of governing to me.
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Honestly, I hope that I can have a shower now. Don't like when I want a shower and someone is over preventing that.
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@augustus Such laziness. I know that is how they do things in the US, but not over in Europe. Or it shouldn't be.
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@epsiloco It is hard to break a habit or ingrained belief. But I think you will feel better for breaking this one... just need to be careful about in whose company you break it in. Better to find someone you can trust and confide in.
Weaknesses are an opportunity to act upon strength, but they will always remain a weakness when they go unheard and can't be addressed. They will weaken your mind so long as you can't be open about them. Lots of people don't change their weaknesses because they refuse to let them be known and slowly changed.
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@phildobangnz Better to find a close friend in person to confide in if you can. But if not, venting on here might be a little helpful... or write things down somewhere.
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PH as in Peter Hitchens? I was listening to his speech earlier. But oof... pretty damning evidence against this special relationship. Another one is the push for us joining the EU. I really don't think we had to join it but I wonder how much US influence led to us being in it. Even Obama was urging us to remain during the Brexit vote even though the EU is not fit for purpose.
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I haven't heard of that one. I was listening to a speech instead.
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@phildobangnz Speaking to you, huh? :)
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@epsiloco Haha... but alas, this same attitude has extended to fedi where people don't want to sadpost or bother people on here with their problems. Even though they lack proper support elsewhere, go unheard and have problems that need to be heard and addressed by them. I've seen this sentiment of keeping it inside so as not to bother/burden others quite a few times now so I said something.
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We all need someone we can really talk with about our lives.
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I wish that I could be there for more people in their hour of need, and throughout their lives... because I think people need that long-term support network. They need someone they can turn to... whether it is just to vent and rant, or to cry onto a shoulder... to hug. Someone who can listen and provide them with the kindness they need and help them to meet their own needs or solve their problems. I wish this were more of a default reaction.
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My feels. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KdUeajFnBzA
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