Notices by clacke: inhibited exhausted pixie dream boy 🇸🇪🇭🇰💙💛 (clacke@libranet.de), page 40

Hopefully overanalyzing my reaction to it and ranting here might help me shake it off better next time.

It's not prompted by anything, I didn't hear anyone say it today, this simmering resentment for it just randomly came to the surface as I was thinking of the rain or something.

1. You don't know if the receiver took insufficent care according to their view. Maybe they consciously accepted a tradeoff because they directed their attention on something else.

2. Maybe a reasonable observer before the fact would have said they were taking the appropriate level of care, but shit just happened.

3. Maybe they don't consider whatever happened a problem. Maybe they don't want to draw attention to it and just want to move on.

4. As advice, it's 100% based on hindsight. Where were you when the person made the decision to take whatever level of care they took? Where was your advice as they were taking whatever action they took?

5. It's unsolicited, extremely unspecific advice and offers zero insight. What other thing should they have taken less care with?

A pet peeve of mine is when someone says "be careful" after something happened. It is extremely common in Hong Kong culture, it is basically the rule that someone will say this if someone else has some minor misfortune like stumbling, dropping something etc.

People say this out of the goodness of their hearts and as a form of comforting word, and I should get over it, but no matter how long I've lived here, it really gets on my nerves.

To me, it hits as arrogance, nosiness, fake concern and a waste of breath. People don't mean it as any of those things, but I cannot make myself appreciate it, I can only bite my tongue.

@chiasm Kids aren't the ones who have trouble understanding and relating. 🥰

Not until they're trained. 😔

yesterday I got the “are you a boy or are you a girl” question from a six-year-old, and I told her that some people aren’t boys or girls (like me!) I was expecting her to be a little confused, but she nodded thoughtfully and said, “wow, just like snails.”

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There, ok. *breathe*

Now my todo list at work is finally down to the same items it was at two weeks ago.

@Thorwegian ❄️ Yes.

Unless all your work tools are down. 😅

They started working again later in the evening and today I'm in the physical office. Time to catch up on All The Things. I have a List.

@Thorwegian ❄️ morning was not terrible, but after lunch, everything Microsoft stopped working

and that's where everything is

@Abhijith Balan It's an originally Christian framework, so people do what they can to make it work, and they redefine the terms as a workaround.

If you say "I interpret the 'higher power' of this framework to be my loyalty to my family" it doesn't suddenly make you believe in miracles, an afterlife and an omniscient Creator.

@Hypolite Petovan

@Hypolite Petovan No, Alcoholics Anonymous have as one of their rules that nobody can recover without the help of a higher power.

I think the idea is you need to leverage some kind of external pressure to yourself, to hack your peer pressure circuitry as a force to help you do the right thing.

For some people it's a simple as their God, Christian or otherwise. For atheists, they may use something more abstract like the ideals of Starfleet or whatever.

Disclaimer: There is a lot of legitimate criticism against AA, ideological and in terms of outcome, I'm just explaining what I've learned of their higher power concept.

@Hypolite Petovan Haha, you always pick up on my observations, even when I try to keep it low key.

I will find an example.

HP = Hewlett-Packard
HP = hitpoints or health points
HP = Harry Potter

Recently I learned that among AA people:

HP = higher power

An internet spotted this bumper sticker:

"Midwives help people out"