Notices by Mira, darling (eweish@radical.town)

Masculinity and femininity are hard to pin down descriptively in part because the markers we associate with each change over time and from place to place. So what that leaves us with, I think, is identification and desire to belong to one or another or neither or both. As for what each should be, I would say that the ideal beyond style and manner is to be a good person to yourself, to others, to your community, and the world as a whole, while maintaining your identification.

One tiny addendum on “nobody would choose to be a woman if they knew what that meant.”
I’m not sure that most people would *choose* to be left-handed, either, but choice doesn’t enter into it. I don’t “feel” right-handed, I *am* right-handed. I KNOW that I am. I don’t know it because I ascribe right-handed qualities to myself: it’s just there and it is what it is. I can deny it, even force myself to use the opposite hand. It’s still there.

So two important things I learned:
A: there’s never just one of whatever you are, no matter how much you differ from your apparent peers
B: Find the boat-builders, they’re the people best equipped to help you build your boat!

My mom died sometime between thursday night and friday afternoon. It was unexpected and sudden.
If you'd like to do something to help us mourn, small gifts of food and kind messages are very much appreciated. You can also contribute to our food fund (we're not cooking this weekend.)

It looks like I'll also be traveling back to iowa unexpectedly sometime soon so if you can send a little money my way, it's really, really appreciated.

to donate via paypal:

https://www.paypal.me/MBFTW

Love to everyone else whose birth family doesn’t treat them right.

a really cool thing you can do for trans girls (and other trans girls) is to just hang out doing nothing except taking care of each other. It can be platonic, make tea and have a few hours of quiet reading time.
I think this is good partly because it reminds us that A, it's good to spend time together just recharging our batteries
B, it's good to relax and have no expectations of each other. ime, that feeling does not come naturally to trans women. it can feel like we owe something.

today's scorpio season mastodon forecast is vagueposting with slight paranoia, lewds moving into the evening.