Turns out that the term for accepting that your trans/non binary is 'Hatching'. When I think of hatching I picture a cute baby bird struggling to break out of it's shell.
I was more like this:
https://youtu.be/7HuVkXLreWE?t=4s
Followed by my brain yelling:
"IN ORDER TO KEEP OUR SHIT TOGETHER, SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO BE A GIRL."