Conversation

Sometimes I wonder about how romance is portrayed in literature throughout cultures. Does the concept of romance vary from culture to culture?

I like to diversify my reading so that it's not the same white cishet American dudes, but like, very often the "romance" either:

(1) isn't romantic. It's creepy and borderline abusive; or
(2) isn't present at all. Characters are just lumped together because the writer said so.

Am I making sense? Is this a thing?