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This is not to say that dynamic cannot change. I believe in the ability of people to change, even if I don't see it very often.

But I have experienced marginalized white people weaponizing their state to push what they believe their idea of community is, and it's usually centered around violence and compliance. Which is typical whiteness.

No one is under any obligation to prove to me they are whatever.

But if one really wants community, they have to deal with that experience.