bailey//rockruff⚪
@monorail it's tough stuff! you never 100% get rid of remembering your deadname. but there comes a time where you've been your actual self for so long that it's hard to associate the deadname with you anymore.
i've been getting to the point lately where it feels weird thinking about memories and NOT imagining the people in them calling me bailey instead of what they would've called me at the time
bailey//rockruff⚪
@monorail there's an excitement at first, when it feels so obviously right to avoid your deadname and be called something else, something that better represents you.
then your new name starts to feel normal and you're wondering why there's a sudden drop in good feels. a little doubt occurs, but it still feels better than the alternative.
eventually it's all you hear, you're used to it, and it's all you can think of yourself as anymore. your deadname becomes a character, or slur.
bailey//rockruff⚪
@monorail basically, just like any major change in one's life, it'll take time but it'll definitely start to feel a lot more normal than anything else, and you'll look back on it shocked at how positive an effect it had
kinda like moving to a new house. it may be bigger and better, but you gotta make new friends and find new places to hangout out and shop and eat and all that. and eventually it starts to become home, more than the previous place ever was.
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