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1. Adam (inkslinger@mastodon.club)'s status on Wednesday, 08-Aug-2018 21:48:44 EDT Adam

   Sometimes I wonder if it was moral to bring a child into the hell world that seems to be coming. Similarly, I wonder if, now that I have, I'm not morally obligated to have another so they'll at least have each other when the world falls apart.

   1. Modern Industrial (modernindustrial@mastodon.club)'s status on Wednesday, 08-Aug-2018 22:00:33 EDT Modern Industrial

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      @ink_slinger Well, that second part is wild - never thought about it that way.

      I read once that personality traits of family members are only loosely linked, and so you're essentially related to just random people vs folks with common values and perspectives. Since then, I've given a lot less weight to the idea of blood family as emotional support. There are certainly common interests that drive most to be decent people, but it stops there.

      1. Adam (inkslinger@mastodon.club)'s status on Thursday, 09-Aug-2018 09:36:12 EDT Adam

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         @Modern_Industrial On a kind of related note, I feel much less of this compunction now that some friends of ours live just up the road. Our kids get along like gangbusters and my daughter once, totally unprompted, referred to their kid as her sister. Now that they're a 5 minute walk rather than a 2 hour drive, the kids will get to hangout a lot more and will probably end up going to the same school.

         1. Adam (inkslinger@mastodon.club)'s status on Thursday, 09-Aug-2018 09:37:49 EDT Adam

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            @Modern_Industrial Will they still be friends in a few years, when they reach school age and their peer groups expand? It's impossible to know, but sibling relationships are really no different, in the end, except that we force ourselves to act like they are.