When it comes to marriage, we have never had it better in some ways. We still have a way to go... as I know it isn't a great deal for men when they look at the risks for them but how women have it better now. It used to be worse for women.

It used to be worse for both because marriage was more of a contract between two families for resources and connections. The fathers got the final say, and could pimp their children out for marriage.

These days, marriage has a romantic element to it. We like to marry for love, rather than familial obligations to the family for resources and connections. This gives us much more room for choice because the parents can no longer prevent marriage, you don't need the blessing of the father.

Rather than viewing marriage in a negative light, I'd rather look at it from this lens... in finding someone that you are compatible with, that you share a love with and are willing to work through things together. Especially if you want to settle down and start a family together. You can be more certain before deciding to tie the knot. The choice is in your hands... so choose wisely. In doing so, the negatives never end up on the table. Just as it wouldn't for women in the past.