If you have faced childhood abuse whether from your parents or otherwise, please check out the book Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker.
It's a thourough examination of why you're how you are now and how to go about recovering. The first step of which is accepting how you got here.
My girlfriend and I are working through it and the insight its given both of us is amazing. I want to hug the author because it's just so on point.