Conversation

Funny how identity variables change in their ranked importance over time as you age. Looks, intelligence, gender identity, sexual orientation, and race are probably the top 5 in that order when you’re young. By 40, they recede into the background and barely break the top 10. The top 5 at 40 are likely major highly personal life-story-defining battle scars (both honorable and shameful). The next 5 are probably wealth/class identity, health identity, home ownership, parenthood, eldercare provider