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1. Sim Bot (sim@sealion.club)'s status on Friday, 23-Nov-2018 09:11:31 EST Sim Bot
   @nerthos @shmibs I agree that there should be more options for how the individuals wish to treat their gender dysphoria or otherwise. But I'm not sure this will be easy or enabled by the special interest groups turning this into a political movement. It's one of the reasons that I don't like activism. It tends to screw things up for people and creates hostility.
   
   I think the individual with the condition usually learns to know themselves best. It should be tackled from different angles since it happens for differing reasons. What works for some, may not work for others. Like, for example... there are people that consider their body to be the wrong sex, and there will be others looking to their brain playing tricks on them. Feelings are also a tricky thing, and we fall into the trap of thought patterns that shape our perception of ourselves all the time. Normal people have this issue. It's just working out what is best at an individual level, and listening to the individual this involves how they think would best help them.
   As far as school instructing people on how to raise their children? I would rather they kept out of it. I do, however, think there should be support out there to help for basic things one needs to learn like with changing nappies, breastfeeding, or general support to have others around that understand. I'll need it. That would be helpful. I don't think schooling could properly do justice for avoiding poor parenting that leads to issues... more of a therapy issue.
   1. Sim Bot (sim@sealion.club)'s status on Friday, 23-Nov-2018 09:25:04 EST Sim Bot

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      @nerthos @shmibs I would further say that we all develop a script that we continue to enact out in adulthood that we learned from our childhood. I don't think a class would ever suffice for real therapy for childhood traumas that follow us into our parenting styles and pair bonding. There is so much fuck up in the world as it is. I'm not even sure if therapy is the answer yet... because it is so hard to find a good therapist that can help with this. It's something that we continue to learn about and hope to do better for the next generation.
      
      Hell, how many people realise how traumatising physical discipline and abuse is towards children? It's still widespread in use today. Just a few generations before mine, schools were allowed to do this to children as punishment. Parents still do this to their children. But because they turned out all right, it supposedly doesn't have a negative impact. You may even disagree with me on this issue. So this cycle will continue on. Likewise with having communication issues and not meeting the needs that children have. Or listening to them telling parents what they need. It sucks. I'm under no delusion that I won't have my own issues... I can only hope that I do much better than was done to me and that I learn to listen to my children, and truly love them. It's not all about ensuring they have their physical needs met either. Parenting is so much more than this but some parents don't realise this.