For boys, much of it is physical. They'll kick your chair, flick pieces of paper at you out of boredom, sometimes they will threaten or talk shit. But most of the time they don't know how to get close like girls do. Only one of my "ex's" managed to damage me in this way.

But it is the girls that get close to the point you let your guard down. Only to get other girls involved while they turn against you, leaving you isolated and confused. They know the verbal game and how to keep it up. If you are being physically threatened, that is easy to spot as abusive. Verbal abuse is harder, and it is easier to blame yourself for it. To not see yourself as a victim or as being bullied.