@karen Does your friend know which bad feelings they are trying to combat?

For any situation, it helps to get to know yourself better. To learn how to acknowledge the feelings you have and where they stem from. To just sit with them for a time. When you learn how to be confident within yourself and the decisions you make then you will naturally look to others less because you can feed that need for yourself. If you find it difficult to do this for yourself then this is where having someone who cares about you can help, because they can just sit with you, and listen as you discuss these things. You can feel heard and that it is safer to admit to your feelings and learn what you need to do about them. What needs you need to process and take action on. I hope this helps.