My self-esteem issues are deeply rooted within self-focused, negatively selective attention... which just means that I'm more prone to internalising negative thought patterns when it comes to myself to the exclusion of the positive. I get the feeling that this doesn't just apply to me on fedi so it is worth pointing out. I ruminate on negative comments, but only if my inner-monologue agrees with the comment made. It's very stressful to have to counter the thoughts in your own head as well as deal with what people outside it have to say.