@varx I started to write a really long response to this, and it started to get really convoluted. Basically: maybe it's both?
If gender exists on a spectrum, then probably most people fall somewhere in-between, right? I'm not sure if this is non-binary, exactly, but most people don't fall at the extreme ends of 100% male or 100% female, whatever those terms even mean.
(I still want to write more, but I'm getting into the weeds again.)