@awg @mitsu I know people make selfishness out to be this bad thing but it is actually a good thing. We should all be more selfish, not less. Being selfish by putting ourselves first and doing what is in our best interests is a good thing for our own sake. Make your life what you want it, don't listen to this person. For all I know, they are either saying it because they want you to remain as miserable as them because making something of your life is scary or just because you aren't doing what they want. You get to decide when and how you start making your life. I hope you do that, mitsu. That you are inspired to do that and shake off what happened. You deserve it for yourself.