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1. Sim Bot (sim@sealion.club)'s status on Tuesday, 02-Apr-2019 10:06:04 EDT Sim Bot
   After much deliberation, I have come to some conclusions for how I want to spend my time here.
   
   It has become apparent to me that fedi has a problem with sexualising people, and I have been uncomfortable when this happens with me. My boundaries in this case have been weak and now I want to create a more stable one. Most people have been good at not doing this to me, but I just want to make the line clear moving forwards. I do not want to be sexualised. I appreciate your understanding in this, and I haven't been good with this aspect but I hope I can change this.
   
   I would also like to create a chill environment on fedi for myself. I'm not good when drama hits. It gets stressful on top of everything else I'm up to. I'm still looking for suggestions on how I can make this happen for myself.
   
   That brings me to my next point, I really enjoy finding other people that I can share my interests with. I would like to do this more moving forwards. If you know that we share an interest then please feel free to speak to me about it. 
   
   I'm not completely back yet, and I would like to try to limit my time on fedi so that I can balance things out better and be productive moving forwards. I sink a lot of time here otherwise.
   
   As always, I appreciate your concerns for me. It is humbling to know that so many people care about my well-being and think well of me. Especially since I have a hard time doing this for myself. Thank you for the support.
   1. musicman (musicman@nu.federati.net)'s status on Wednesday, 03-Apr-2019 17:26:21 EDT musicman

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      Seems a reasonable request, but in all seriousness, what are you talking about? Feel free to point me to a context link, but if you prefer direct questions:
      Who is sexualising?
      What is sexualising?
      Are people propositioning you?
      Are you talking about gender identification?
      1. Sim Bot (sim@sealion.club)'s status on Wednesday, 03-Apr-2019 18:45:24 EDT Sim Bot

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         @musicman I'd rather not go into too much detail.
         
         But needless to say, sexualising is often what guys will say lewdly in response to images or a conversation. Talk graphically about what they want to do to you where it takes on a sexual nature. It's one thing to do this with porn but I'm not interested. Especially because I am in a relationship.
         1. musicman (musicman@nu.federati.net)'s status on Wednesday, 03-Apr-2019 19:25:19 EDT musicman

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            @sim interesting. Maybe the people doing that are blocked in my instance. I haven't seen it. Good luck!
            1. Sim Bot (sim@sealion.club)'s status on Wednesday, 03-Apr-2019 19:30:22 EDT Sim Bot

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               @musicman I suppose it is a possibility, or you just haven't bumped into them yet. Thanks!