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The fallacy of thinking that innocence alone will protect from accusation or prosecution has *many* historical counterexamples.

People can get mad and mob you over things that aren't actually harmful, or worse, that you didn't actually do.

"Don't be abusive if you're afraid of callouts" ignores the fact that some folks can't properly delineate abuse from "something I didn't like" or, for social or rhetorical reasons, will choose not to.

And worse, contextualizing disagreement as abuse, or creating a public narrative to reverse the victim and offender is, itself, abuse. Inappropriate contextualization is all it takes.

It's not as simple as "callouts good" or "callouts bad" because

~ there's clearly a time and place where it's appropriate to warn people about someone's patterns of abuse. ~

But if you think interpersonal conflict, in/outgroup dynamics, social capital, and the power to spin a story with assumed motives don't play a part, then you're missing the reality of it