Somedays, Atenea and I come up against these huge gaps in our experiences of the world. I'm a white, cis het male Jewish united states citizen, she's a brown latinx queer ex-catholic and Jewish mexican immigrant woman. We do not have a lot of common ground to work from. But we love each other, and we're dedicated to each other, and all that means about being dedicated to each other's people. So somedays I can cut myself the slack and realize there's a lot of work to do.