When I talk about my dating issues, I inevitably have a few people go all Darth Vader on me...
"Give yourself to the queer side, Luke. It's the only way you're getting Iaid."
I should mention at this point that I've had two girlfriends so far.
The problem was that they weren't great. I mostly went for them because they showed interest, which they did in the hopes of escaping their respective situations: One was from ghetto USA, the other was from the Philippines.