I find it difficult to deal with situations where, if you ask for permission, you get a no, because it's against the rules, but if you just do it, there are no objections.
Similarly, I find it difficult to deal with situations where no one will tell you about the rules, but if you break them, you will be reprimanded.
It feels like some sort of sadistic test of my ability to read other people's minds. You're supposed to just know these things, but I just get confused.