I don't think it's appropriate to go into ppl's DM's after long back and forths on heavier topics to apologize or meet ppl 'in the middle'...
Esp if it wasn't consensual. I stand by that. If both parties didn't agree to move to dm's, why are you suddenly moving your half apology to dm's?
Ppl using dm's to avoid public accountability are to be kept at a distance, imo.