Today I learned that there is a scientific description and research on a tactic called “Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender (DARVO)” which abusers use to defend themselves when they're found out:
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/10926771.2017.1320777
Intriguingly, it is also used a lot by right wingers to defend their nastier points of view.