One of the things that always leaps out to me about bigots trying to find 'common ground' is how they try to convince you the issue of equality and oppression and targeted violence isn't that bad or even doesn't exist, so we should just let it go.
Even in their attempts to reach out or whatever they call it, there's always this thirst to discount the humanity and experiences of the person they want to parlay with.
That's why it doesn't matter what kind of flowery language they use.