it took me over 35 years, but i think i'm finally figuring out that what this life is about is:
* finding a home where i feel safe to be myself, and have space to relax and work on small projects
* finding work that isn't too taxing, covers bills and food, and has at least a neutral impact on society
* having community that cares about me
i can't really ask for more than that. just working toward that is enough of a life mission