@jillybobww I for one am glad you are here. I wish I could send you a challah bread ( I always think of those because someone used to say my hair looked like that sometimes) I'm not Jewish, but most of my friends are. -maybe a music thing? Maybe a culture thing. whatever. I have similar rebuking thoughts at big holidays. Commercial stuff makes it worse. I firmly believe we make our families. Sometimes that's the only way to deal with our realities.
sending a sympathetic ear/nod/acknowledgement