Notices by farm goth (myconidiosyncracy@awoo.church)

if we have the emotional strength at the time, i think we should say shit like "please don't comment this way on my vent posts" or "i really appreciate you just calling me to chat, it was so kind". "do you think when i get upset you could tell me some of *these* things? that's what made me feel better in the past" etc. etc

also not to harp on, but i think what we *want* to hear when we feel fucked is something everyone should talk about more too. depending on our spoon level, we all have the ability to lend emotional energy by listening to people and offering sympathy. it's a really powerful tool to help people heal as a community, and we should discuss individual needs more, i think

we tend to forget this, i think, as we heal from our own personal struggles. i know i'm guilty of it a bunch, cause it usually comes from a place of care. it feels right and good to offer advise or at least be reassuring. but the thing is, mentally ill people fucking *know* the advise already, it's just added pressure to heal better and faster. and as far as assurances go like? actually sometimes shit is just Not fucking okay, and that's fine. it should be acknowledged not dismissed

"shit that fucking sucks" is 8000x more helpful for a struggling person to hear than "it will get better" "have you tried this?" "you're totally in the right!" etc

people don't usually........ lie about the things they feel. in fact, they're pretty frequently...... completely correct about the things they feel?

anyway, we all gotta consider that more, i think, before we open our mouths to critique someone for discussing a feeling/experience we don't fucking understand, i think. in my opinion