Since there seems to be an issue with some admins being racists or misics, I'm just gonna list out all the servers I know are modded by Black, Indigenous folx or PoC. Often, this means there will be an overlap with queer, disabled, kin, neurodivergent communities. Some of these servers will not be taking new users, but they still serve as a great model for what to look for, IMO.
elekk.xyz
Myasstodon.xyz
Friend.camp
Monsterpit.net
Ecosteader.com
Playviscious.social
Let me know if I'm forgetting or missing any!