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@guizzy @roka @zemichi Yes... it is usually online that older people interact with me. Probably because they think of me as mature and thus around their age. The consideration is likely to be down to the experiences I've had from a young age. Living with depression makes you grow up quicker in some aspects, makes you examine life and yourself. But I'm still ignorant in other areas which took a back seat like socialising.
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I was going to dress up as a princely knight but things got between that! :')
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@zemichi I don't see Bricky dressing like a girl any time soon, if ever. And you can't have him or me. Even in trap-form!
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@zemichi @roka Ahh.... fair enough. I'm glad you've had some good friends too! Yeah, it's the vulnerability that makes me wonder if older people are attracted to me over.
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@mangeurdenuage I mean trap in appearance here. I like the idea that people aren't quite sure if I'm one way or another at first glance. But I also have a lot of fun with the enigma online... so I imagine it would be fun to take that into irl sometimes. :')
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@roka Haha. The amount of times I've been called gay. :) Thanks for clarification too!
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@coolboymew Honestly? Because of the enigma. It would be fun. Especially as people guess by appearance alone. I've enjoyed this neutrality with online.
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Sometimes I wouldn't mind being a trap, but like not in the trans-sense. I don't know if that makes sense.
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@karen In some ways, I'm not so sure I've seen the full spectrum here... we only present a slice of it at any one time. There might be parts of you that you hide from yourself even... that don't get shown.
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Most of you know too much about me now to be fooled. Being an enigma is fun though. Especially when people get it wrong.
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Then again, most people think that I'm around their age or not far from it. I kid you not.
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As I get older, I imagine that I'll start to attract younger people to me. It seems funny to me... especially as I very likely attract older people to me right now.
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@zemichi @roka A part of me wonders if this has to do in part with whether you know what a healthy friendship looks like. Sounds like you attract older people to you instead. Why do you think it happens?
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@solidsanek That is unfortunate. I do hope you get to meet some in addition to making friends irl to meet more regularly. I know that I've met some online friends, although I haven't met with most in a long while. It was either the once, or a few a few times but not in a long time. My BF being the exception!
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@roka I'd be inclined to agree with you on that. Trust is very important in friendship, but perhaps people get around it by saying they have a best friend that covers it rather than friend alone.
That is a tough situation to be in. I've had friendships backfire on me also. It's hard to judge who would be a good friend to trust while you are still learning what those qualities are while growing. Even when you feel that you should know better, something draws you to someone. In time, I hope that you can find healthy friendships that you don't feel the need to be distance with irl. Perhaps this will even repel bad ones!
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@zemichi @roka Yeah, it can be hard to find common ground with people... especially as either of you get older and change interests! But I still think it is worth it... having that support network when you are vulnerable does help with resilience to life IMO. It's one place I've been lacking.
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@karen I didn't think anyone was into that!
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@solidsanek Really, I don't think there is a substitute for cultivating irl friendships, because you can meet in person, they can visit for some support if you need it or you can bond for a day out together. It's one thing that I've longed for but I'm not very good at cultivating it. But long distance friendships can help for some emotional support, if not the physical support.
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@roka What is your idea of a friend?
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@solidsanek Yeah. One of the things that has made life more stressful to lead is that I didn't have irl friends to help with de-stressing and support. A support network is vital for resilience in life I think. Can't underestimate it. I hope you find one!
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