"I think we're scared of looking at each other's hurt and looking at our own hurt. So we hide from it, we busy ourselves to avoid it, we laugh to avoid it, we hurt others, we keep people at a safe distance, etc.…[W]hat if we could just pause and be present with pain…and make space for it. Not even try to heal it. Just accept it. What would happen? Would the pain crush us? Or would we find some freedom from it? Find some peace. Maybe the fear of confronting the pain is actually the worst part."
Regardless of my criticisms of certain people's behavior, folks from other instances critiquing the whole idea of #coops based on the process of defining self-governance sort of indicates that they've never tried it themselves.
It's hard to organize a group of people, because everyone thinks they can be the best #benevolentdictator possible.
#Drama is going to happen, whether you're an in-person group, a message board, or modern social media.
So I'm thinking there's now a pretty strong argument for gender quotas in the standing jury and other positions of influence to try and de-brocialise the running of the place a bit. Ideally we'd see representation from a cross-section of marginalised groups without such measures but I think we have to get the scaffolding in place first.
Social coop members: If you are having a hard time understanding the need to take action on the instance to limit fascists, terfs, etc.
Do not engage a trans, queer, or otherwise marginalized person asking for explanations of terminology or to defend their feelings. They do not owe you an education, and it's emotionally taxing to have to bring every well intentioned reasonable person up to speed.
Instead, DM me and I will do my best to explain it. #socialcoop