Notices by Elly, nasty enby :heart_pan: (elizafox@mst3k.interlinked.me), page 26

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@Guinevere I mean I get that, but that's their personal decisions, y'know? I live by a different set of personal dynamics that make *me* happy 🤷

As for what *I* want, I try to stay neutral in things like who can see what other people.

I confess if I didn't like someone Alex was seeing, I'd have serious reservations and I'm pretty sure Alex would respect that. I guess that counts as a veto.

I really don't care who Alayna sees, as long as it makes her happy. Who she sees is honestly none of my concern. I wouldn't even care if I didn't like them, so long as I didn't have to see them.

And honestly if Alayna couldn't stand to be in the same room as a prospective other partner I'd probably be very upset and pass that person up as a partner. It's just my idea of basic respect and also wanting things to go smoothly.

Because of the way my spoons work, basically everyone would have to want to be in the same room as the other, because spending time with people is too exhausting otherwise.

I'm not sure if my relationship can be considered polyamorous or polyfidelitous or perhaps both

There's no agreement on whether or not polyfidelity is a subtype of polyamory or if it's different

And our relationship's power dynamics are... idk? Alex gets the final veto on everything. I don't feel like I need Alayna's consent to do things like date other people, but I would honestly like it, and if she didn't like someone, that would factor into my decision heavily.

It's like

If you don't like other people's rules, oh fucking well eh

You might as well tell people to stop being straight/gay/pan/bi/whatever with *that* attitude

I mean I guess relationship anarchists might be like "lol fuck your rules" but seriously though who the hell cares

People can do whatever the fuck makes them happy

Seriously: "Polyfidelity is a form of non-monogamy, an intimate relationship structure where all members are considered equal partners and agree to restrict sexual activity to only other members of the group."

HOW CAN POLYAMOROUS PEOPLE HAVE ISSUES WITH THIS WHAT THE FUCK

Wow what the fuck apparently some polyamorous people have issues with polyfidelitous people???

Why

Seriously, *what*

@foxwitch I don't think I can handle bigamy (I'm not ready for that yet) but I mean, I'm not /discounting/ the idea of more than one girlfriend alongside my wife

But right now I'm not in the market for another partner

Then again, I wasn't in the market for my girlfriend when she came along 🤷

BUT I LIKE IT

It's so fucking weird saying "my wife and my girlfriend" *and* have it refer to two different people