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@phildobangnz A lot of women don't know themselves. It really is unique. Love is a mysterious thing. You don't need all those things you just mentioned to find the affections of a woman. Maybe one or two, and there will likely be conflicts in the future if you try to get serious and don't have security. But a lot of it is down to having the right combination for attractiveness... and that is a unique thing. There are many types of men, and many types of women. I can't give you a concrete idea to attract the woman you desire, because it will be unique to her. I've even been surprised by what I find attractive, and who I fell in love with. It truly clashed with my ideas, and that is a good thing for me. It enabled me to grow and find a man I can build trust with.
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@phildobangnz This is the thing with preferences. Sometimes you aren't even aware you have that preference, or it conflicts with other ideas you have. I wasn't aware that I had this preference either, especially because I really admire maturity. But these days, I think it is more about finding the balance. Finding acceptance for these two parts. I really do find it endearing to see a man being playful with his children. So it is knowing when to act on it. You can like some displays of immaturity but not others, and likewise with maturity. It will depend on the individual. Even men have this duality.
That is a personal development journey for you to undertake. If you don't believe you are enough, how can you convince others that you are enough? It is a confidence thing. You need to find your 'enough' within you first. Having a partner won't convince you that you are enough. You will still feel inadequate, and it will become evident then.
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@phildobangnz All I can do is speak from experience. I doubt that I'm the only woman that feels this way. It's not unique to me. But it would be interesting to speak with other women, and see what they think about male cuteness. But plenty of women are endeared by charming men. Probably find him adorable when he goes out of his way for her. Adorable when they see cute couples around them acting cute. Adorable when a man interacts with children or babies, becoming soft and gentle in voice and manner. Assuming that is what they are seeking.
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@phildobangnz How does that condemn 90% of men to die alone? Especially because I was trying to be supportive by saying that if a woman wants to change you here, then don't get with her. Especially if this is an important part of your character. Aside from that, it's not really a trait that means you won't get any woman. Some women really are endeared by this. Others may roll their eyes, but still find it charming. Plenty of guys act this way and still enter marriages. You just need to keep a good balance. If something requires seriousness, then be serious. Otherwise you can be playful, teasing and joking. Implemented well, it can be disarming and lead to much laughter and smiles.
Honestly, it applies to women as well. Because men and women are diverse, there is no one size fits all for you to become. You just need to discover who you are, and find someone who can appreciate that. If you can find confidence in yourself then you win regardless. But it is a very nice bonus when you can find someone who admires you as you are, and more so when you can find someone you can admire for who they are.
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@roka So a cute grill? Gay.
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@roka That implies all men are homosexuals. :thinking;
I bet you can be cute too!
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@phildobangnz Perhaps. But they are boyish because that is youthfulness. If someone nags you to give it up, then ditch them. Someone else will admire that part instead. Or you just need a good blend between being boyish and mature. Know when to be either.
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Really though, to be cute as a man you just have to be a man. Women will either finding that endearing and admire you, or they will prefer another form of being a man. (Or woman, if men don't take their fancy.)
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@phildobangnz My first thought is: "Screw you." Even if you won't admire your own gender and the cuteness that comes from it, I will.
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Male cuteness is this energy that demands action taken. Especially at their pursuits like sports or building things. It is endearing.
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As a man, your cuteness lies in youth. Having youthful looks like a baby face still. It is in being mischievous and playful... giving that cute knowing look that is innocent when you've been told off. It is in things like play fighting, like with your children. Men are very cute when they let their guard down and become playful with their children. Or with a baby.
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@roko I'm not following. ;;
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@phildobangnz It's all I see on fedi, tbh. It's gotten old. I don't see people celebrating the cuteness that is boyish/manish... just getting boys dressing up like girls or something.
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Making cute boys dress like girls is a bad meme at this point. Being cute isn't the sole domain of cute girls.
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A closer view of Stirling Castle. The building at the back of this shot is the banqueting hall, it would be painted the king's gold like much of the site would have back in its hey days.
https://sealion.club/attachment/2717965
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@phildobangnz Yeah... I don't even think that our most important buildings are made with beauty in mind. Just what we've inherited from greater architects than the modernists.
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@phildobangnz Yeah... our modern buildings tend to look like shit. A blight on our minds.
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@phildobangnz These were done quite quick tbh. At least, the ones done outside due to the weather. :s
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@phildobangnz I agree... it is very pretty. The king that commissioned it was into ship building. He would later order a ship made twice its size... but names escape me right now. u_u The tour guide liked to imagine that he decided to commission the ship after seeing how huge he could craft his banqueting hall roof.
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