@mattcropp @sarahjeong As a relatively isolated autistic individual, this notion of emotional labor is spot on for me. I got in when FB required .edu address. Pull for me was using it as a crutch to help reach others with similar interests whom I wouldn't otherwise have the IRL social skills to talk to.
Makes sense that people who aren't lacking in that area would likely find the labor invisible.
Crude analogy: people who don't depend on wheelchairs tend not notice when ramps are missing?