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@lain @karen @detectivehyde It's almost like a form of imprinting!
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@nameface Flirting... it depends. If sexual then no. If it is just friendly or compliments... I can handle it. But I don't really know you well enough yet otherwise.
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@augustus @delores Unfortunately the government has its hands in the business pocket. If you want your interests to be represented... if you want tax breaks or government contracts then you need to be aligned with the government. Or else you lose out there.
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@chazcon I nervous laugh a lot if that counts. ;;
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@marmite Thanks. I guess I also struggle with knowing the boundary. I suppose it differs between people. Saying no is definitely hard... especially with social anxiety!
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@chazcon I do have a lot of anxiety so it probably gets displaced there.
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@marmite Interesting. I feel like my brain has a form of block there. Like I have two sides, where one might recognise it as a joke... while the other is still in a loop when it comes to the jokes. For the flirting... it's a bit harder. I get confused about intentions and stuck in a loop there until I can know for certain. If it is just friendly stuff then I usually have less of a problem and either thank them or play on it if I like them enough in a friendly way. ;;
Being in a relationship does make knowing the boundary and what I'm okay with harder though. Even harder is when I know the person is joking but kinda means what they say. Like they wouldn't mind it happening or would want it to happen. But then they joke about it... how does one navigate that minefield? And when is too far for you? Will that person stop? I guess I'm also stuck on how I'll be perceived if I do ask someone to stop it.
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I like friendly flirting and compliments... but I don't get enough of them. Haha.
I suppose it would be better to say that I like them from people I like rather than strangers or otherwise though.
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remember that one week when everyone was eating switch cartridges
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@marmite Is this about being very sexual though? Hmm. So I guess you can relate to my discomfort when it happens with me? ;;
Flirting advances and compliments can sometimes get mixed up for me. I can end up even more nervous than I was before it happened. It's hard to tell what is friendly and what is an advance.
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@aven @dolus I think we are in the same boat. It is a bit like being easily seduced by the notion... and I would much rather keep my sanity and remain grounded in reality. Otherwise I might get swept away by it. Thanks... I'm glad to be away from that chapter in my life too. I am better able to handle humouring the ideas now but I do still have a rejection in place to prevent me from slipping back to that dark place.
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@marmite Weird...
Or am I the weird one for not getting it? If anything, it seems more scary or sometimes repulsive to imagine said lewd thing happening. My brain doesn't process it as a joke... and it is very weird to involve the people around you. Like if you joke about kissing or fucking them, or offering that suggestion...
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@chazcon I will smile quite a bit! What sort of pathological ways are you thinking about?
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@aven Understood. I'm not too sure what its name is called... but I have been looking to find something like this.
Narrative therapy sounds like it might be useful for you... you can follow this link to learn more about it: https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/types/narrative-therapy
It's also quite similar to this approach: https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/types/voice-dialogue
I usually visit good therapy to read up on issues I am facing or similar sites. But this roleplay you can really just do yourself by adopting a child self and a parent self, or similar. Perhaps more of a protector type. Just explore different aspects of your psyche. This is just one way that my brain is better able to understand myself, by creating a persona to act out an aspect of myself and then listen. If you listen to yourself then you can work out what it is that you are feeling and how to resolve an internal issue. It may take time for some things though! It's a process.
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@marmite What about the girls that already have a bf/gf?
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@roka @kaniini I think we should ask the fediverses rabbit friend for the answer as it eludes me.
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@chazcon I think the same thing occurs to me when there are jokes about divorce as well so we are of the same mind there. Sometimes I wonder if I am any good when it comes to humour. I'll laugh at bad jokes because they are bad, sometimes laughter itself can be contagious, or when I'm nervous... but that is about it.
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@roka @kaniini I don't think bunnies do marriage. They just fuck like bunnies!
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@nameface RIP. I don't think I am swoon-worthy! You wouldn't faint.
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@ayy LOL. I kid you not... that is apparently what a 'vampire' woman mentioned doing to her partner!
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