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@rye Thanks! Hope you got some good dreams!
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Right... probably time for sleep. I've stayed up waaay too late, just haven't felt sleepy enough. I still don't so we'll see how this goes. G'night fedi! Sweet dreams and stay safe!
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@roka @ayy @kaniini @clacke @lain @ffs @sean Wao.
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@moonman Haha! I technically did date before I knew about GS, but also while on it. GS enabled me to meet my BF so I will be grateful for that.
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@sim all like "I was dating before GS" look at this Chad.
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So... the interesting thing that I've been noticing from shitposter lately is that sometimes when I reply, it will repeat the name of the person I am replying to... so the account with @ shows up twice. Like it would say @sim @sim
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@kaniini @ayy @clacke @lain @ffs @sean But GS was here first... you can't be taking credit for what it allowed. ;)
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@1iceloops123 @ayy @kaniini @clacke @lain @ffs @sean @moonman @1iceloops123
He did. He is no longer delores but under a different name. I found it quite by accident... and then forgot it. I don't interact with the new account and I don't think delores wanted me to know what it was or else I would have been told anyways.
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@kaniini @ayy @clacke @lain @ffs @sean Lel. I've been dating since the GS days. Although I think some relationships have been and gone since.
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Although there are also experiences that solidify my position... like the more that I stay with smokers, the more repulsed I am by it. I feel sick. It's a huge reminder.
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It is truly a sobering experience to start dating someone with a trait you've been repulsed by... but then end up re-thinking about it. Because it is something you need more of instead, or just to change your perspective on it.
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These are just the things that leave an impression on me. That I think back to. It applies to guys that I've found attractive in person and in guys I have dated.
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But the things that mattered most to me are the things that any guy can practice. Like looking into the eyes of my then-BF, and seeing how his face softens with love as he gazes back. Or being calm or confident in situations, especially when I freak out and need it most. Affection for comfort. The ability to communicate, to listen to issues and ask questions that show concern for well-being. Being able to watch a man be a man is quite the experience. When he is open, honest and vulnerable. It brings my protecc out.
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I'm not exactly a catch. I just wanted to point all those things out because I remember someone mentioning them before, about how women don't date guys with some of those traits that I started out mentioning.
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If I'm being honest though, it's probably not saying much. Given that I have shit self-esteem, make a lot of excuses/allowances and I'm a sucker for tragic backgrounds and vulnerability. Plus all these guys have been taller than me.
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Traits that I have found in guys I've dated or found attractive in the past actually do include being short, bald, chubby, not wealthy or in full-time employment. Much to my dismay, it also includes partaking in things like alcohol, drugs and smoking which are very common.
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What I find attractive for eye-candy doesn't always translate to dating material. To who I end up dating. It sometimes surprises me.
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But here is a not-so-secret, my feelings about the relationship and guy will trump everything. Not every preference must be met. Once I've fallen in love... that matters more to me.
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My preference has to be a skinny guy who has enough strength to handle everyday things that compensate for what I can't do alone. Like lifting heavy furniture around, with some help for stuff that needs two people.
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When it comes to what I find attractive physically in guys, it has become more about moderation. I don't find obesity to be attractive just as I don't find starved bodies to be. If it is down to a medical or poverty issue, then that gets my sympathy but I still won't find it attractive. It's even less attractive when done deliberately.
On the other side, I actually don't find really bulked up guys to be attractive. It's just lumps of muscle, and some bodies really start to look deformed when overdone. But you'd have to go on steroids or go to extremes for that look.Β
These things can work for certain sports or other competitive things, but it won't make me find that attractive. I would have to overlook it and try to find other points that i do find attractive which I have done before.
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