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Righto. I need to think about heading off now so I'll talk later, fedi!
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@helvegr @detectivehyde @wizard Interesting... where did you find this copy?
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@detectivehyde @wizard I disagree. It was worth my time as I pointed out in the original post. She provided the contradiction to my core beliefs about selfishness that I needed to hear. She was the only one I knew of that contradicted it. She gave me the chance to pause and reflect on her thoughts about it. In the end, I agree with her about selfishness not being the bad I was taught it to be. That it is important for me to put my needs first and to do what is in my best interests. I was able to reject my self-destructive beliefs in part because I listened to her. Without that? I'd probably still hold them or worse.
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@wizard @detectivehyde Being a meme isn't too much of a problem given that most figures have memes created through them. Could be worth looking at this theme from his perspective too.
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Sometimes we need that big contradiction to challenge our core beliefs, to make us go back and re-examine our belief to see if it is still serving our best interests or not.
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@detectivehyde That's not an argument though. I'd probably still be stuck today without the lessons I mentioned. Her perception with Objectivism really did help me in my time of need. She was the only one to tell me that putting my own needs first and doing what is in my best interests isn't a bad or evil thing. That selflessness wasn't the good that I was taught it was.
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Ayn Rand gave me two valuable lessons.
The most important one was her definition of selfishness. She helped me to see that it wasn't wrong to be selfish, to put my needs first and do what is in my best interests. Funnily enough, that isn't being self-destructive like I was being and like a lot of people imagine selfishness as. I felt so guilty for even having needs, for even trying to meet them when I could be helping others. That kind of pain is hard to live with. But I had a very black and white view of selfishness... selfishness was bad and selflessness was good. If I wanted to be a good person then I always had to be selfless, I didn't realise I was setting myself up for resentment and pain. My needs being unmet because I wasn't meeting them.
This other valuable lesson is one that I still struggle with, but she helped me to realise the importance of choosing life. If you don't choose life then everything would be meaningless since you'd be dead. At your foundational roots, you need to choose life. From that choice, you can create your own set of values and ethics, and then to act on them. Choosing life is where meaning stems from. I'm not sure if she put it that way but a quote of hers got me thinking about it.
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@mangeurdenuage That sucks. I hope it goes better tomorrow and that you get everything you wanted to do done. I have the same problem so we'll see how it goes.
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@orekix Basically. People split up into smaller groups based on interests wherever you go, and it is important to make room for that. To encourage it.
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@luma Still... it doesn't hurt to ask about it, does it? Then you can know for certain if it is a joke. Seriously... get bold and talk about it. It might bring you both closer and clear up any misunderstandings. Hell, the girl you mentioned might not like you because she thinks you don't like her. By talking about it, you clear that up.
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@orekix Sure but the longer I'm here, the more that I long for it to remain niche. When it stops being niche, the focus loses itself. I can still see the fediverse becoming more about corporate advertising and celebs if we get large enough. The direction changes from it being about people and small communities, you lose connections with people because you can't possibly know everyone around.
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@epsiloco I think twitter is harder due to its limits and focus. It's not supposed to be for deep conversations even though people used it as such like me. Lel.
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@guizzy Hmm... perhaps it would be better if there were many niches around on the net rather than making one area big.
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@luma It might be a good idea to ask before you do anything. Talk to her about it. See if it is a problem, see what she suggests, you know?
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@orekix It is a worthy goal but then you could easily push out people that prefer niche communities. They might then have to use sites you don't like. Make the fediverse popular and it loses something very special to it. Why should anyone join then? As it is, people mainly use other social media sites because their friends or family do.
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@epsiloco I agree. Like you can fit in or communicate better when it is personal. Popular sites definitely feel like they lose something.
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@nerthos I'm glad I'm not alone in this feeling. The niche is probably what appealed to me... make it too popular and I feel like it loses something.
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@luma Does your friend know about this connection?
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Am I the only one that wants the fediverse to remain a niche?
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I feel like I have so much to talk to rice about, and so little time to cover it all. Lol.
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