@thurloat yah. That bothers me too.
It's ridiculous. The idea of self-moderation was brought about by the big tech companies because they don't want to pay for moderators to keep their platforms safe.
Without some controls and higher authorities, things descend into a hostile cesspool, and well intentioned people will leave. That's why Reddit and Twitter are so awful, and are overrun with trolls and bots -- they have practically no rules or moderators.