Notices by maloki 🍵 (maloki@elekk.xyz), page 2

@mooncake that's totally a fair point and people should be making the difference to further educate the community as a whole on more international events. I will say however that, for the most part, most people tend to be disengaged from larger news pieces in general and even then only the western headlines, and the fediverse is the place they would even find out about such international movements. second of all, you get the language barrier. inherently with international news there's going to be less primary sources and news outlets in English than in the languages of the respective countries, making the exposure even less for thiose who aren't really going looking for things in the first place

I agree with you, I really do. but I feel like unless there was really somebody who was going to sit people down and explain what's going on, people aren't going to learn about international movements. I feel it would be *better* if they did, but there are loads of reasons not to, it takes a lot of time, it takes a lot of emotional energy to read about these things, as I said before searching Flor sources can be harder, and it's also the fact that people just don't know what they don't know

@Ashrand I think there's also a distinct lack of uplifting even news articles here

So maybe thats one way that white ppl can uplift the struggle. By sharing links, screenshots, and navigating others *to* the people who are saying the stuff we need to hear

I do not think that being white precludes anyone from sharing information. Sharing information also isnt an invitation for a take.

There are no answers but there should be Good Faith conversations about it.

Anyways,

to return to the original point of the post:

Uplift the struggles of people outside of the white West. Uplift the struggles against the West, through sharing news articles, essays, photos, etc. Freedom doesn't happen in a silo, and we aren't free until all are free.

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someone mentioned the "invader vs settler" debate (age-old debate, it seems) re: settler colonialism, which is good to consider and think about, broadly

- Should the terms we use be more reflective of historical pain and trauma and therefore more hyperbolic/less apologetic?

- What do we do with phrases and terms that do the requisite "heavy lifting" to describe a concept/historical formation, even if they were fashioned in Ye Olde Ivory Tower? Do we throw out these words *bc* of their origins?

Left Fedi is notoriously quiet on uprisings outside of the continental US and Europe, and that needs to change, like, yesterday

y'all's claims to intersectionality or to decolonizing fall short quite often

uplift struggles that are outside of the West, and are directly against the West as well (not just in separating from the West but knowing that the West cannot and should not continue to exist)

if we have the emotional strength at the time, i think we should say shit like "please don't comment this way on my vent posts" or "i really appreciate you just calling me to chat, it was so kind". "do you think when i get upset you could tell me some of *these* things? that's what made me feel better in the past" etc. etc

also not to harp on, but i think what we *want* to hear when we feel fucked is something everyone should talk about more too. depending on our spoon level, we all have the ability to lend emotional energy by listening to people and offering sympathy. it's a really powerful tool to help people heal as a community, and we should discuss individual needs more, i think

"shit that fucking sucks" is 8000x more helpful for a struggling person to hear than "it will get better" "have you tried this?" "you're totally in the right!" etc

we tend to forget this, i think, as we heal from our own personal struggles. i know i'm guilty of it a bunch, cause it usually comes from a place of care. it feels right and good to offer advise or at least be reassuring. but the thing is, mentally ill people fucking *know* the advise already, it's just added pressure to heal better and faster. and as far as assurances go like? actually sometimes shit is just Not fucking okay, and that's fine. it should be acknowledged not dismissed

@Laura_I Looking for a literal biological definition for transness, autism, gayness, etc has always reminded me of people trying to do the same shit for race. We don't need to make that mistake again.

They could say there's nothing different about us. But it wouldn't change the fact that we exist and that we're here.

Looking for a biological cause of things like transness or autism leads really quickly into "cures" and eugenics, and I'd rather we just avoid that path all together

For real y'all, I don't need people to respect my identity because science proves trans or Autistic people exist or something.

I don't want a world where some professional gets to scan my brain or test my hormones and decide if I'm truly Autistic or trans.

I get that sometimes people want to prove that the thing they're experiencing is "real" in some way, but it's harmful to look to the scientific establishment for confirmation of what is real.

i'm not sure whats worse, that every femme and woman i know has a story about attempts at being groomed by older cis men, or that its so normalized that most of us don't even realize that it is grooming.

If you have medications, are you taking them?

A toot's got me wondering about the nature of consent in a specific way; I won't ever have an Alexa or anything like it, and maybe you won't either; but other people will.

And now I'm thinking, if you have one of these lumps of spyware in your home, should you be *required* to offer a formal warning to any visitors? I think so; you're required to place CCTV warnings if you run CCTV, and if anything systems like Alexa are more invasive, not less.

The data from a CCTV system might never leave the premises; the data from these "assistants" goes **directly** to servers outside either your *or* your host's control, where your voice may be datamined for any damned purpose the server owners choose.

Don't feel bad about saying "I don't wanna come over, you've got an Alexa running." It's not paranoia to be creeped out by AIs (or persons) unknown listening to your private conversations. It's *normal*. You don't *need* anything to "hide" for you desire not to *share* to be valid.