What happens when a person of color talking about racism says, "Don't tell me to CW this," and a white person does, in fact, tell them to CW it? Well, there's the obvious: A white person is disrespecting a person of color's boundaries in order to talk down to them.
But let's go subtler. What's happening in the mind of the white person who feels themself to be well-intentioned?
A collision of community norms. Many — not all!— people of color online feel that there is a tradeoff to be made between the urgency of a message and its potential triggers. When they and other people operating under those conventions interact, passing along information they may find upsetting because they judge it urgent, the system works as intended.
When someone whose etiquette system is CW-if-in-doubt sees this, it looks different. Perhaps like a violation! There's a clash of norms between different informal communities of use. For a really basic analogy, this is like seeing a photograph of a British car,
a. Individual people of color, gay people, trans people, disabled people may request something more stringent in CWs! People are different. Sometimes our needs collide, and you have to make judgment calls (maybe, for example "I need an alt for this!") This is a normal aspect of human society, and there are no simple solutions.
b. If another mad/disabled person tells me that I need to CW something related to ableism, that's one conversation. If a cishet tells me to CW something related to homophobia, that's another conversation. Either way I might decide to do it, or I might say "Please mute me;" but it's different! Don't speak for people who are already present in the conversation.
c. Sometimes people have a different opinion from you and it's not because they're misinformed. This is ugly and glaring in conversations where white people try to tell people of color about racism CWs: why do you assume they just don't know what CWs are for? They can know, & disagree about a specific case
They just run out of spoons. Either you open all of them without reading, and you're playing roulette with your triggers again, or you scroll past without reading, and communication stops. b. Over-detailed CWs can be worse than the content itself. if you try to tag EVERYTHING, reading CWs becomes trigger roulette. 3. An immense, labyrinthine system of etiquette that you can only learn through being scolded is an accessibility barrier. Anybody who struggles to pick up on norms gets pushed out or leaves of their own accord.
So what is to be done? CW things people you interact with agree are universally upsetting. And respect the wishes of those who may be harmed by content. Which means,
3. You have to listen to people of color when they tell you "zero-tolerance racism CW" is an aggression. Their oppression? Their rules.
I routinely talk abt homophobia, transphobia, anti-madness, etc. w/oCWing it unless it's particularly harrowing. For some reason (I'm white), no-one bothers me abt it.
Alot of ur fav memez and slang are from black twitter.com
And alot of it gets placed within pop culture and misinterpreted and certain ppl.. Sincethey dont *actually* know what it means and where it originally came from throw it back in black ppls faces.
Somedays, Atenea and I come up against these huge gaps in our experiences of the world. I'm a white, cis het male Jewish united states citizen, she's a brown latinx queer ex-catholic and Jewish mexican immigrant woman. We do not have a lot of common ground to work from. But we love each other, and we're dedicated to each other, and all that means about being dedicated to each other's people. So somedays I can cut myself the slack and realize there's a lot of work to do.
I've been reading about Fascism and gender in Klaus Theweleit's excellent "Male Fantasies" and I think one of the ways we can be different from fascists is embracing eroticism, the blending of people into each other, the loss of individualism through passion and caring and, yes, sex.
@ArtistMarciaX This is why the U.S. will snatch children who sell small amounts of a harmless flower from their families and place them in the least safe and most abusive environment possible. It was never about the "harms" of pot. It was never about minimizing harm at all, it was just racism.
That's why when you didn't follow a "rule" that some random whitesup person on the internet made up on the spot, they felt it appropriate to stalk and harrass you. Way worse than any effect of your post.
Hi all, I've set up a Mastodon instance using Docker and noticed that there's an issue with the setup script. It needs to be run twice, failing halfway through the first time. I'm looking for feedback on this issue here: https://github.com/tootsuite/mastodon/issues/11368
I'm not familiar with Ruby so I'm mostly lost as to what to do to fix the issue. I'm also not sure if this issue needs to be resolved with the setup script or the Dockerfile.
@djsundog this is so cool, because we were watching a video clip yesterday, from 9 years ago where our friend was telling someone about that little laptop and showing one off
hey young leftist friends. you're struggling to clearly and consisely define your ideology? let me tell you a secret. no one fucking cares. it's what you do, not what you declare that counts
Okay, I'm changing the rules on the giveaway, here's the new shit: -only counting replies. -i will only post 'closed' when the item is claimed -boosts are necessary for me to give these things away.
The same stuff still applies about: -once you cclaim a prize you are taken out if rotation -if the prize is passed on, the next available could still claim this even if they already claimed a prize -you can opt out of rotation permanently at any time -names will be picked randomly otherwise