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I hope this miserable feeling leaves me soon.
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@nerthos Touche. But I do think it can be good to discuss these things with your partner, and in that sense it can be a good label to describe what you mean as long as it fits. But clarification may be needed anyway.
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@roko Where are your programming socks?
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@nerthos Do you mean people that are asexual? What would you change it to if you could that would fit better?
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@nerthos What sort of holes do you think it has? I do know that there are people that are switchers.
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Asking the tough questions!
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Are you sub or dom?
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@jankoekepan I'm glad that worked out for you! To be honest, the same thing happened to me. I just felt super awkward when dating, and a lot of it these days is about short-term or sleeping around. Not something that interests me.
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@phildobangnz I guess not. I don't even know them. xD
Also, your @ is being funny on me. Oh boy... bugs galore.
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@phildobangnz I like sucking ice cream... does that count?
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@phildobangnz Aha... I think it is a bit more than that. I don't think it would be fixed if they got laid.
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@phildobangnz I'm with you on that one. It doesn't help that people on both sides end up having some bad experiences, and then that impacts how they interact with others in future, and so forth. I can understand when it really is trauma, but I don't think it helps anyone to take it out on men or women as a whole.Although I can understand how difficult it can be to avoid that sometimes.
Don't worry, I mostly feel honoured/grateful that people open up to me in this manner. That they trust me enough. But I really do recall having an aversion in this case and it was pointed out to me. In other cases too.
Good thing I'm tired a lot these days, huh?
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@mangeurdenuage Good to know!
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@mangeurdenuage Sent a message on riot, hope you can reach there. ;;
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@phildobangnz I appreciate this. Rationally, I know that it's not my responsibility what other women do. That I can't take that responsibility on. That I am not them. But emotionally, I hit a really low point with it. Like it just felt hopeless. Like I am overshadowed by women that do this. That no matter what I do, women get defined by the worst elements and that follows me. And I would blame those women for it. It is less about being uncomfortable about thots, and more that when I hear about abuse towards men... it really fires me up. Grinds my gears. I really have an aversion to them for it. I did not like hearing about an ex-wife a guy that I spoke openly towards mentioned to it... and he realised it quite quickly. Because she did not treat them well.
I-I-kjslnkfjlbswjlcbwljbdjkb Not cute when I'm tired! >.<
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@mangeurdenuage Sorry, I'm going to need more time to process this. Maybe talk to you elsewhere about it when I can.
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@phildobangnz I hope so. I'm sure there is a part of me that burns with a passion on this topic, which is why it means so much to me and I'm so muddled on it. I haven't always had the best relationship with boys or men around me. But I was referring to the idea of men haters more than you. That I didn't want to be someone like that. For a long time, it is one of those few topics that really fire me up. Like my love for beauty and history. I also know how destructive hate can be.
Anyway, I get really fired up about injustices done to men, especially to the men close to me... and the ones that open up to me. It's why I think I hoped you could find some more healthy and positive examples of women in your life since you've been dealt a shit hand there.
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@mangeurdenuage I think there is a certain amount of responsibility that I must feel in order to feel this way. Hard to put into words. But I really also feel for the men that tell me about the things that happen to them. Especially from men that I feel close to, that really open up to me. I've heard some awful crap.
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@phildobangnz I guess it just feels like a heavy weight. I resent the other women out there that act like arseholes towards men. Like, I hear some of the stories and I can't fault men for being more cautious in the dating realm, likewise for women that have shitty experiences.Then we're stuck in this perpetual cycle that leaves a bad impression for male and female relations. And it feels hopeless.
I don't really know what I can do. I know I don't want to be an arsehole towards men, and to hate them. I'd rather look to and admire men as a whole, and in particular individuals that have earned that.
Thank you, though. For sharing your opinion on it. I really need to hear some positive stories about dating, to know that it isn't completely hopeless in my mind.
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@mangeurdenuage I'm just as sleepy, I think.
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