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@thatbrickster @sarcasmkid It is the only way sim will date a pleroma dev tho!
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What is pleroma doing in terms of searching posts for keywords?
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@sarcasmkid Well, I just took what you said the wrong way. :')
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@sarcasmkid Only if bricky becomes a pleroma dev. uwu
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@ayy @rice No, I can't tell it is circular or not deep. Like what more reason do I need? Because of my body image issues, I have suffered and wronged myself. What is deeper than desiring to change that so I have a positive and healthy relationship with my body? I already know what it is like without that and it is suffering. Taking care of my body is important to my very sense of survival and well-being. I would cease to be without it keeping me alive.
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@ayy @rice Why wouldn't you care about your body? If your body is unwell, then you suffer. It is important to take care of the body for your survival. But I'd also like to have a positive relationship with my body after dealing with these body image problems for so long.
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I kinda wish reposts said it was reposted by the username rather than name. People change their names a lot and it is very confusing.
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@ayy Coincidentally, it also happens to be a self-defense mechanism employed. Like if you can't escape your situation, then you detach mentally while it happens. I suspect this is how I got through school as a child even though it was a form of hell.
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@rice @ayy I second this. I was just trying to help rice too. When I'm at my laptop, I will feel better able to copy things over because phone-posting is a hassle. Either way, ayy... I recommend reading into body dysmorphic disorder if this topic interests you. I'm posting from the exercise book called body image problems & body dysmorphic disorder by Lauren Callaghan and Annemarie O'Connor if interested. Better understanding in it even if I don't agree with every method posed. :')
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@rice Okay, the technique that I found most revealing is called the two hands thinking technique. I think it will help you most in figuring things out, especially because you do have a thinking problem.
There are two hypothesis on what your image problem is... On the one hand, you believe the problem is your appearance. But on the other hand, the problem is actually your worry about your appearance.
In order to write this out... Write these headlines:" "On the one hand my problem is..." Then type out the belief you hold about your body. "How I am living my life because of this:" Such as what you do to make sure your fear doesn't come true or reducing anxiety, eg safety behaviours or rituals. "Evidence for this position being true?"
New paragraph, type "On the other hand ..." Type out what your belief is as if it is a worry you have. 'The problem is I worry about x belief. I worry about what other people think about x belief.'
"Ways I could live my life if this was only a worry problem rather than being real" You may point out you don't have to follow your rituals or keep checking the mirror. "Evidence for this being true:" Then list evidence that your problem is a worry problem rather than your belief being true.
It is more a mental exercise than fixing your issue. I found my problem was tangled much deeper than I suspected, but that I could come up with ways it was more a worry than truth. I hope this makes sense and helps you or others.
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@rice @ayy XMPP, I think, hasn't worked well for me. Riot with encryption may be best for now. I think it is too soon for me to tell how I feel about exercising. I want to associate it positively though. I did suspect that even if I did get my body to the ideal, I would still suffer with my body image problems... It may latch onto something else I won't like about it!
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@rice @ayy What you are describing sounds like bdd to me. You really would benefit from the book I am reading because it covers what you talk about. The rituals are a form of safety behavior for you.
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@rice @ayy Pretty much. You can easily talk compliments down as well which doesn't help there. It is definitely deeper... And something I really would like to discuss with someone that understands it in private. Not possible until the new year now when I hope the hard drive will fix my laptop problems. :s My worry too, is that going to the gym will not fix the deeper problem I have with my self-image and it may discourage me. So this feels important.
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@ayy @rice Ah, if only these things were so simple to believe! You are likely wrestling rice's deeply held beliefs. Calling her beautiful just won't penetrate that easily.
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@rice This is the issue that I've been trying to sort through recently. I'm going to eat soon, and then I'll back to you about what I've learned thus far. Still going through this book, Ofc. I think it helps to think about where body image issues stem from, whether the problem lies with reality or whether it lies in your worry about your body image. I hope you can untangle yours! Mine runs very deep into how I view myself, alas. I feel like I will need plenty of support to shift things.
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@mangeurdenuage Thanks! Stayed up too late last night so idk.
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@mangeurdenuage Morning! Hope your day goes well.
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@zemichi @djabadu Yeah, it might be! After all, we did need to be prepared to spot when a predator has taken interest in us. Like I said, they may feel the same level of threat from a photo because the brain doesn't always distinguish between what is real or imagined. It responds the same way. We need to know the tools to change this, but those aren't usually passed down.
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@djabadu That much I can agree on. There are better ways to handle this and you've named them. Now, if only I had a way to never see those cw again... They never think that it could be triggering in itself, do they?
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