@kurisu@plausocks The last time I saw this picture, it had a caption that read something to the effect of: "It's over, folks. The cat can haz cheezeburger."
So the gist of it is that the gendered Norwegian words for "cousin" feel direct and personal, while the ungendered words in Norwegian and English feel indirect and impersonal, and that need to refer to them in a more personal way was what prompted me to add gender specifiers when speaking English, ironically making them sound even more impersonal, since "male" and "female" are very impersonal words.
For a Norwegian speaker, using the genderless word "cousin" in a sentence like "my cousin is tall" is about as natural as using the genderless word "parent" in a sentence like "my parent is tall". Even an English speaker would then want to know whether you're talking about your mother or your father, because that is considered important information. There is a genderless word in Norwegian too, but that one's typically only used to refer to cousins collectively, or if the sex is unknown to you.
Years ago, I had fallen into the bad habit of taking the Norwegian-English dictionary too literally, and would go around typing phrases like "my female cousin" and "my male cousin" to English speakers I knew on the Internet.
One day, one of them asked me why I would repeatedly state the sex of my cousins, and I realised that, in English, there are no direct translations of the words fetter and kusine. The default is to leave the sex ambiguous unless you're asked about it.
@moonman That's pretty much everyone's relationship to LinkedIn. Their way of getting you to join smells of dark patterns. You just wake up one day to an email in your inbox: <Name of someone you know> wants you to connect with them on LinkedIn. And you keep getting spammed with these emails until you give in and join LinkedIn, because the damned thing is already emailing you as if you already joined the service.
@moonman I'm not on Facebook either, but if anyone asks, I just tell them it's because of the scandals in the media. (And there is a grain of truth to this: I deleted my Facebook account around that time. It was definitely a tipping point for me.)
I still think it's terrible that not being on LinkedIn has a real-life opportunity cost.
I have a friend, a CEO of a pro-FLOSS software company, who never needed LinkedIn. He created his professional network before LinkedIn existed. People find his business through word of mouth. When I told him I don't have LinkedIn either, he said:
"It pains me to say this, but maybe you should have a LinkedIn account."