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@rye Not so! I actually saw a photo of me as a child and thought, "Wow... I actually look cute there!" I also joked today, "What happened?" after it was pointed out to me that I looked cute in this photo. Lmao. My cheeks used to be chubbier so that might play a role too!
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@rye Aha... cute. I can imagine him poking his little head through the collar part too. :')
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@rye I think I did, then woke up at an earlier time... now I'm sleepy and feeling a bit low. ;;
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@lnxw48a1 I struggle to even click to open it because of my response to it. I don't like the trivial nonsense reasons that people will also cw over and tell others to do the same. I don't appreciate being guilted over not doing it. The things that matter shouldn't be hidden behind a cw wall. It reinforces this idea to shut up about it which is done enough in polite society. :/
Filtering would be better because that is something you can do yourself without making others do anything. Just look out for key words.
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Imagine having to see the cw every day. *Shudder* I don't know how anyone does it.
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TFW a vegan showergel contains nuts.
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@rye Heh, heh... I don't know about cute! I'm not sure I'm going for cute anyways. :') I hope so!
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@rye Probably! I meant that I don't know what he looked like in this position. :')
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@rye Well, the going to bed late wasn't the great part. :')
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Finally, I want to say that I admire fatherhood in men. The role that fathers play in the lives of their children is crucial to their development and it shouldn't be absent or forgotten. It is not just limited to providing financially.
From little things like rough housing at a young age that teaches boundaries and delayed rewards if I got this right. Teaching their children how to ride a bike or partake in activities and hobbies together. Being able to look after their needs similar to a mother at a young age.
Fathers are great for building confidence, wisdom and comfort. From learning through debates and talking openly about topics, being able to speak ones mind and being heard. From being a comforting presence because you can trust him to keep you safe. That he will protect you and knows how to handle a situation you don't as a child. For being able to give compliments and lessons about confidence and independence.
A great father is a man to be cherished, he is active in the lives of his family and will prioritise and support them where he can. Being able to see him soften up around his children is really great too. He is a man worth supporting imo. I'm sure there is more I haven't mentioned too!
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I haven't covered everything... just what I can think of from the top of my head. These are all things that can be worked on and improved that I've mentioned thus far. At least, for most people.
I like it when men are being men. I can't begin to tell you how much I admire men in general. How much I'm attracted to men. That there is no reason to be ashamed to be a man. That it repulses me that we live in a society that doesn't truly appreciate men and tries to destroy them. That paints masculinity as toxic. This is not the message that I want my son or my husband to internalise. Or any male in my life, whether family, friend or stranger.
At my heart, I want to see masculinity nourished. To build up and nurture. I don't want men to think that I want to destroy them, but they will believe what they believe about women. And part of that truly is the fault of women that attempt to destroy men and send this message out. That there are sections of feminism or other ideals that do the same. The responsibility does lie there for their part.
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I'm also attracted to a certain charm in men. With a little playfulness and cockiness. But a cockiness that is genuine because it is truthful. It comes back to being attracted to a man who knows himself, and is able to be playful with that. Able to inject some humour into the conversation. Able to be confident.
But also a charm that is able to seduce me with compliments that leave me at ease rather than stressed out. That is no easy feat. Haha. Perhaps even one that can get in touch with my feminine side!
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@detectivehyde I hope so to all of those things! I would say that it does help to express and admit to my feelings, although I still struggle with second-guessing myself. With learning boundaries and what is acceptable. It's a learning process. I imagine I'm not alone in struggling with all this.
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A story that I've told a few times before that stuck with me. I had a crush on a guy because he seemed to be much more confident and collected than I am. He doesn't know it but he taught me an important lesson.
I had never been abseiling before, and so one time I did this and basically swore the whole way down. It was scary. This guy seemed to handle it much better than I did. But he told me that he was scared too. He didn't seem to understand the impression I had of him.
But it is a good story of how courage comes not in the absence of fear but doing it even though you are scared. That appearances can be deceptive and we don't know what people are really thinking. It's a humbling experience. And other people may have a different idea of me than what I experience.
Also, for all of you guys that are scared shitless... you can still be attractive to women that think you are confident because you do something they admire. No matter if you feel scared doing it. They probably won't see that part, and it might even humble them to know! Courage is a good trait to have, and it will never grow old to me. Every hero requires courage, taking action that scares them.
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This one isn't necessarily seen as a masculine trait. But I do admire men that can be vulnerable and open with me. I am awed when I am trusted with seeing this aspect. I know how difficult it is to be vulnerable around others, for them to witness it. Which means I cherish it even more as it happens.
You don't realise how touching it is to see a man crying in front of me. I know not everyone shares this admiration and I know it can be abused. But at the same time it is something that is touching to me. It's a reminder to me that sometimes we do need to cry and that it is okay for me to cry if I need to. If anything, I just want to protect and comfort if I can.
Of course, tears aren't the only way of being vulnerable. Being able to be open and honest about yourself is another way, to yourself or to others. Being able to be open about all sorts of topics to discuss. I like having conversations with guys because so much more is open to discuss often.
I also admired a guy who tried to teach me how to brush comments/insults off through knowing yourself, and being able to accept or reject based on reality. That other people didn't necessarily know you and so you needed to measure it based on how well they know you, and whether something is true or false. I'm afraid to say that I didn't put this into practice so I can't say whether it works or not. But it is interesting. I'm sure there are other ways.
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Because I appreciate hearing what it is that guys admire in a woman or the feminine here... I thought it would be a good idea for me to be open about what it is I admire in men.
It is maturity and independence. Just having the ability to be assertive about what you want. Having that goal-oriented mindset that gets shit done. Being able to learn and put that knowledge into practice. Being intelligent and able to recall important things.
I know not every man has these things or this one... but it is attractive when a man knows who he is, what he wants out of life and he pursues that desire even in the face of obstacles but not in violation of others.
These are traits that I feel lacking in at times.
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@josemanuel Thanks. I'm pretty good when it comes to introspection because I've done it throughout my life. But I think it is just as important to get a different perspective from those not me. That is a great learning opportunity.
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@ajr If you keep reflecting on yourself, then I think you are moving in the right direction because it will give you an idea of how you can become the kind of man you want to be and you can learn to grow through it. Don't forget to put yourself out there when the opportunity arises... sometimes we learn best about ourselves through that interaction... being in a relationship. May not like what you see but you can change yourself so you become better.
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@josemanuel Thanks for the suggestion. I am inclined to agree with you in that there isn't a model or right way to be a woman. I'm mostly asking out of genuine curiosity and interest, and seeing if I can agree with what guys are saying or not. It's more of a bouncing off point, because I realised that I really admire men and most guys will be attracted to and admire women in a similar way. There is something to learn there. Especially with more reflection on it.
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@mangeurdenuage I appreciate your honesty. I think there is much to learn even from those that are still growing like myself. I hope you would feel that you could learn from me just as I think I can learn from you here. It will be insightful. So please feel welcomed in sharing your insight, no matter how you feel about it. I welcome your thoughts on the topic.
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