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@mamizou If that works for you and you feel most confident in that, go for it!
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That reminds me, I once went with a jeans and dress combo. So I guess I was experimenting with style in the past. Very few dresses make it to my wardrobe though. I'm even more picky about those.
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If I'm wearing leggings or plain trousers similar, then a dress or short skirt really work. Although it is hard to find a short skirt because they tend to end up being long on me. :')
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@roko Aha. I haven't tried fish nets! Or stockings for that matter. Maybe one day...
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@detectivehyde I don't really have female role models I aspire to be like. Certainly not how I feel I am and should be. But there is one aunt who has helped me with contrast... because she is able to keep a tidy and clean house, drives, works part-time and has raised children. I admire her household and attitude there more than anything. I kinda admire the way things function in their family. So I would just be inspired by the good parts and leave out the bad. She has also tried to teach me how to cook in the past which is a handy skill to have.
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Whatever you wear, you've gotta be able to feel comfortable and thus confident in them. No point torturing yourself with clothing that doesn't fit... not even to fit in.
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I think I've discovered that I don't like things which are too restricting when I wear them. Tights are quite a turn off... and certain leggings that are designed in this way. But it is nice to experiment here and there. See what works, even if I wouldn't wear them for the majority of the time or maybe ever again.
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@detectivehyde Yes, I don't think that I would change the values I admire. I would hope to learn how to embrace everything in time. One of the ways I intend to act on my femininity is through motherhood and through love. I want to bridge the skills gap where I have felt inexperienced when dealing with the household too which is more a part of being independent. I don't know about the work space since that is still very stressful for me. But working on my body confidence is another area I'd like to improve on. Maybe even less afraid of potential attention.
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The impression that I get from guys in particular is that I'm different to the average female they've known. I'm not sure what to make of it now. But it fits why I feel out of place a lot. Not quite fitting in anywhere. I'm not sure if I've reached that point of owning it yet... especially when there are so many aspects of myself that I reject.
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It kinda sucks that I feel like I've shunned a lot of my femininity. Mostly out of confusion and because I had a linear perspective of what it means to be a woman and that didn't fit me. But also some anxiety. It also wasn't something that I would strife towards when I preferred what people would refer to as masculine traits... but were really neutral since both sexes can be those things.
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I don't think I like the implications of experimenting on school children by treating them as though they are gender/sex neutral. It potentially creates more confusion where there otherwise wouldn't be for most.
There are obvious differences between the sexes, and it is good to differentiate... later on, those children can decide for themselves whether they identify with their sex or not. Or what gender they prefer. But I don't think we should be experimenting on them over it.
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We're very identity politics conscious in modern day life when you think about it. There are all sorts of messages when it comes to things like race, sexuality and ones gender/sex. It's reached into government policy, MSM and society. Increasingly into education now too.
It's very easy for people to take one of those attributes and to create an identity for themselves over it. To take offence because it feels like an attack on themselves when someone is critical or questions that identity. People get very attached. Especially when it is their main value system and they don't have anything else to fall back on. They collectivise themselves, and feel they belong in this group.
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@xj9 @deadsuperhero I'm not really sure that I understand everything that happens in this space... but I don't think you can assume that someone is just doing it to be trendy. Like sexuality, I think a lot of people find gender/sex to be a very confusing and uncomfortable area in their lives, and they've gotta figure out what works best for themselves. Experiment until they find what suits them, but be cautious about making any permanent changes until one is sure. There isn't really a manual... but there are lots of mixed messages from all sorts of directions. Not to mention what we believe ourselves.
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@debbie @jeff The only thing that stumps me with anarchy is this idea there would be no leader types calling the shots. We could probably do with some anarchy to begin with though, just to break the world up again. City states are more ideal than a large government taking up lots of land and being too big to fail. But that is just me.
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@jeff @debbie Tbh, there would still be a hierarchy in anarchy. It's pretty much human nature to gather together and defer to others for things you can't do. Plus there would still be capitalism in place... or perhaps it would be more bartering if money loses value.
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@rye Cold and nice don't go together, tbh. Although I suppose it might if you usually live the desert life.
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My door keeps opening by itself... spooky.
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@thatbrickster You'll be bullied even harder.~
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Wen dey is dark, rember to bulli cute bois.
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Cute bois gonna get bullied.
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