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@wizard @rice In order to avoid faff, this book recommends buying clothes that fit, being prepared for the weather or conditions, and wearing big undies or the right bra. :')
To practice style, it says to stick to what suits your body... to become confident with your proportions. Change up your old favourite looks by adding some different or wearing it in a different way. And then let your personal style evolve with time. It's a work in progress.
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@ducksquared Welcome back!
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Plot twist: Someone buys Woolworths and brings it back to the high streets.
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@fl0wn @hakui Sounds good. It would be worth discussing further down the road with the users we have then. Documentation is definitely nice to have.
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@fl0wn @hakui I agree that it is better if people can choose for themselves. Hopefully we no longer have space concerns. I hope so! I normally moderate the local timeline and whatever I catch on my main timeline. Don't want us to be in trouble either way.
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@fl0wn @hakui @roka Does that still reveal the attachment as a link so you know it is there or not?
I think it might be better to do this admin end though. I'd feel bad if we started to cache bad images from elsewhere and didn't catch it in the time. ;; On the local side it is easier to catch everything but not fedi-wide.
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@nameface Still tired so idk. Could have been better. Thanks.
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@ayy Thanks! Hope your night end well.
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@guizzy Cheers. Definitely needed the sleep.
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With this, I shall leave you for the night so that I can sleep even though my brain seems to be very active with introspection right now. Always when I need sleep too... haha. Goodnight, fedi! Take care and dream well!
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Perhaps we may never fully know ourselves, especially when things keep shifting... but isn't it better to have a curiosity and drive to know yourself? To learn about yourself... to be surprised by what you find. To take an interest in yourself... to be attentive to your needs and desires, to the messages that you tell yourself. I have to wonder if this is something too many people underestimate the importance of. Or perhaps worry about how it gets perceived by others. But who better to take an interest in yourself and your life, to learning about who you are than yourself?
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An important step to gaining self-esteem is knowing yourself. If you know yourself, it's a great shield against self-doubt and second guessing yourself. Knowledge is powerful. It leads to being able to make changes... because you know what you need to change and where your current limits are.
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I've continued to be fascinated by what I term as the human condition. And so an extension of that curiosity would be to raise my own children and learn through them. There are things about us that only having children can teach us, just as there are things about us that only having a relationship can teach us. We are better off for learning and knowing ourselves, if we can handle that. Just as we are for learning to relate to those around us. It teaches us an invaluable skillset. It's not an easy thing but the potential benefits outweigh that for me, and I hope this is something that I can teach my children.
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@ayy Glad to hear that someone else can relate to my ramble! :)
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Plenty of people are born into broken or dysfunctional families. As a species, humans have been through some tough times and survived through it. I don't think that should be a reason to not have children. I think it is better to learn through the mistakes of the past so they aren't repeated... and only then can each generation do better than their ancestors. I suspect it has been this way for thousands of years. It is motivation to do better by our own children than was done to us or those around, rather than being put off completely. But if you don't have that drive then it may be better to not have children.
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Maybe it is a contradiction. I don't want to live forever which sounds like a nightmare. There are two warring factions inside of me... because there are times that I want to die, mostly because it is preferable to my inner pain. But at the same time, I don't want to die. I will fight it with every fibre of my being even as I bring it upon myself or through bad habits. If someone tries to kill me, I will go down with a fight or try to prevent it. Not today and not in this way, buddy.
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In the past, I haven't wanted to have children of my own. It's only these past few years when the maternal drive has reared its head. I can come up with a number of reasons to not have children but as time goes on... I question whether that is enough not to.
I really don't like the idea of going through pregnancy with all the changes it will have on my body. It goes against self-preservation for a woman due to the potential for complications. Probably why we need something like maternal instincts to overcome that.
My biggest fear would be in bringing my child up in a dysfunctional environment... that my own dysfunction will negatively impact my children. But I'm starting to think that isn't reason enough to not have children. Instead, it inspires me to get my shit together so that I can provide what my children need.
Becoming a mother will bring a lot of changes I won't like. But it will be worth it for me. I hope I can learn and grow from the experience... that it will develop my character in the only way that having children can.
I'm not driven to desire living forever or to pass my genes on like a legacy. I will accept my cycle in life, while still doing what humans do best... striving to remain alive when death comes knocking.
I am driven more by the wonder that is watching my children grow, as we all develop as we age. I want to be there for them at the important stages in their life. To protect, love and care for them as they learn to navigate life.
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@nerthos Aha. I'm not sure I'd think about it in those terms. Unless we're gambling with our future potential all the time! :')
But fair enough. If you don't want children then I think that is reason enough to not have them... regardless of any other circumstances involved. No need to play that game.
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@nerthos Aha. Well, this is why it is important to be attentive and give them the tools they will need to negate ideology. Then again, even without that myself... the feminist movement repulsed me. It's one thing that I can say I'm glad I never fell into as a trap... even though I fell into others as a youth when I was left-leaning. To be fair on my younger self, I learn self-loathing early on and was born in a very left-leaning environment. I was learning to raise myself while being assaulted with all sorts of messages, and over time I've been able to question things. It sucks that it has taken me so long to realise when much of the damage has been done though. Still a battle at times to negate ideas that kill my self-esteem. You just don't know how your children would turn out...
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@nerthos I'm sure that I'll learn as time goes on. I'm not sure parenthood is ever something you are prepared for due to the many variables involved that can throw you. Yeah... and these days it lasts longer than 18, especially for parents that shortchange their children and don't help them to navigate through life in a healthy way. Or that have bad habits, or treat them poorly while they are young. You really feel that in the teenage and young adult years.
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