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@roko Ahh... I don't XMPP. Think I had problems with it in the past?
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"Concerns about appearance aren't shallow. In fact, the importance of appearance has its roots way back in history with our earliest ancestors. Their life was tough, and their survival was only possible if they were part of a wider community. But if they were considered hideous, diseased, or badly injured, they would not be able to find a mate, they would not be able to contribute to the survival of the community, and ultimately they would be rejected from the tribe. Left alone in a hostile environment, without food, friendship, or protection, they would face a very uncertain future and would be less likely to survive."
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https://youtu.be/oXFEMV919Pk
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@roko What sorts of things do you learn from him?
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"Every day is a struggle when you can't stand the person you see in the mirror."
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@roko Still talking to him? Say hi for me please!
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@ayy Yeah. It would help if you are building up evidence that supports a positive image of yourself. But there isn't a lot to do with a positive... except to thank the person that complimented you and feel whatever relief. But it's not a problem to solve unlike negatives that you ruminate about which go unresolved.
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"One of the key things in tackling any body image problems or BDD is identifying and changing unhelpful coping strategies or, as we call them, safety behaviours. These are things that people do to reduce the chance of their perceived flaw(s) being seen, or to protect other people from having to see the perceived flaw(s). In essence, people undertake these safety behaviours to avoid or minimise what they perceive as threatening situations, and the safety behaviour offers relief from the severe anxiety they would feel if they'd had to endure the situation."
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"Selective attention or hyper-vigilance is when you focus on information that you perceive as a threat, and use that information to reinforce unhelpful beliefs."
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"Reassurance seeking rarely, if ever, provides relief - or not the specific kind of relief that people are seeking. Even if they get a positive response, e.g. ' You look great' or 'You can't notice it', (which is what they want), they don't feel any relief because their own doubts are so entrenched. And then they will find ways to reason this reassurance away too: 'They're just saying that to be nice', 'They don't want to hurt my feelings', etc. There is no relief (Or only very fleeting relief) because they are so convinced about how awful they look that they rarely trust what anyone says - and then the worry cycle starts again."
And you may wonder why saying that your GF's arse doesn't look big in her clothing doesn't work to reassure her. Well, here you go.
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Can you imagine only having a weekly bath with 5 inches of water? Wartime British rationing advice.
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Because of a change in plans, it is very likely that I have to change things around so I don't get tomorrow as a rest day. Today doesn't feel resting. The next rest day that I get will probably be next weekend since I have something going on all this week.
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Suddenly very tired again.
Is it too much to ask for a day where I'm not emotionally taxed?
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@awl It really wouldn't surprise me... but I hope she hasn't fucked them up to the point it can't be repaired.
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@shit Pretty much. Sounds slightly different with a different approach needed to tackle it. Perhaps exercising is the incentive you needed to push yourself to eat for a while until you get a healthy relationship with food.
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@cereal Yeah. For most people, there isn't that problem with food associated with exercise. It can be a fine line though.
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@shit Yeah. Or the food becomes a reward for exercising like in this case.
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@nepfag I dunno... it sounds like an eating disorder. If she doesn't exercise, she feels that she doesn't deserve to eat food. She has a bad relationship with both food and exercise. It's restrictive again... a bit like the different diets out there. Instead of a fasting routine, it is an exercise routine gone out of hand. :')
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@shit I wouldn't prescribe it for that reason. They will punish themselves afterwards for it!
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